Old Paradigm
The self-defense community has evolved a bunch even in the few years I‘ve been involved in it exclusively. Now, it‘s …
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Missing the Forest for the Trees…
Most of us have a pre-conceived notion of what an abusive relationship looks like. I know I did: the drunken …
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The Big Three
It’s absolutely a fact that your boundaries will be breached. In fact, we usually start to build them based on things that we have experienced in the past that we decided we didn’t like—after the fact. Sadly however, that’s where most people’s ideas of boundary setting and enforcement ends. Enforceable boundaries are so much more than that.
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The Big Three
Here is a big picture principle for you to chew on. A predator needs a minimum of three things to be successful: Access to your child. A way to isolate them. And the ability/intent to do it. Many times that last bit becomes the most important.
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The Big Three
Looking back, I can see all the things I wish I had done differently—better. The things that probably did more harm than good, and I have to remind myself that I was doing my best with the tools I had at the time. It’s not always an easy pill to swallow. There’s no instruction book.
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The Art of Boundaries
Recently, someone taking my Creating Enforceable Boundaries course sent me the following question. Rather than just respond to them individually, …
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